Why I joined a cancer support group

A cancer diagnosis is life-altering, it affects so many aspects of a patient’s life physical, emotional, and psychological. For many, the cancer journey can feel lonely even with loved ones by their side. This is where cancer support groups can offer an important source of shared experience, useful tips and a sense of belonging.

Support groups offer strength that goes beyond medicine.

Miss Emily Tan, Principal Medical Social Worker and Art Therapist, Department of Psychosocial Oncology, National Cancer Centre Singapore (NCCS), shares why joining a support group can make all the difference for someone diagnosed with cancer: 

1. Emotional support from those who have similar experiences 

Friends and family can offer comfort but sometimes it is hard for them to truly understand what someone going through cancer treatment is experiencing. Connecting with fellow patients and survivors who have experienced similar physical and emotional challenges can help patients feel less alone.

For patients and cancer survivors, joining a support group isn’t just about receiving help - it is also about giving back. Many find fulfilment in supporting others through their journeys.

“The challenges we face as young cancer patients are very different from older patients. We’re at a different life stage and have to balance work or school while going through cancer treatment. I’m grateful to be part of the AYAO support group, where I’ve connected with others going through similar experiences. Now, I hope that by sharing my journey I can offer comfort and positivity to newly diagnosed young cancer patients as they navigate this difficult time of their lives,” shared Mr Hansen Hu, 26, rhabdomyosarcoma survivor and member of the NCCS Adolescents and Young Adults Oncology (AYAO) Support Group.

Mr Hansen Hu found hope in the support group’s positive experiences and wants to offer the same for newly diagnosed cancer patients. (Credit: Mr Hansen Hu)

2. A safe space to express fears and concerns 

Many patients hesitate to burden family or friends with their worries.  Support groups provide a confidential, safe and non-judgmental space for members to share about their fears and concerns about the future. This can help reduce stress and anxiety. Members can also listen without feeling pressured to share unless they feel comfortable.  

“I joined the NCCS lung cancer support group because I wanted to hear about the experiences of other cancer patients. Opening up about my fears helped me realise that others had similar concerns and their stories made me feel less alone,” recalled Ms Lee Hong Eng, 47, lung cancer survivor and member of the NCCS Lung Cancer Support Group.

After joining a support group, Ms Lee Hong Eng found comfort in knowing she was not alone and was encouraged by the support and shared experiences of other members. (Credit: Ms Lee Hong Eng)

3. Practical advice from patients and healthcare professionals

Hearing from other cancer patients can provide valuable insight about managing side effects, juggling appointments, choosing the right treatment and coping with the emotional upheavals of cancer treatment. Besides peer support, support groups organise talks and activities where healthcare professionals share tips on coping strategies, nutrition, post-treatment care and more.

“Through Sinar Harapan, I befriended other cancer patients and survivors. The educational talks and workshops were informative and fun, and I have since learnt about the different types of cancers, signs and symptoms. I also enjoy outings with fellow members to places like the Zoo and Gardens by the Bay,” said Mdm Maznah Bte Abdul Samad, 64, a breast cancer survivor and member of the NCCS Malay Support Group “Sinar Harapan”, meaning ray of hope.

Mdm Maznah (first from left) and other members of Sinar Harapan learning about aromatherapy oil. 

(Credit: Mdm Maznah Bte Abdul Samad)

4. Hope and encouragement from survivors

For newly diagnosed patients, hearing from survivors who have overcome cancer gives them hope. Seeing others actively participating in their treatment can also encourage patients to stay committed to their own care and follow through with appointments and medications.   

“I’ve been batting stage 4 leiomyosarcoma for 10 years, and this year, I underwent chemotherapy for the first time. The support and advice from my support group was invaluable! As the patient leader of the group, I’m constantly inspired by the stories from fellow patients, which motivate me to lead better and face my own challenges with courage,” shared Mrs Wendy Tan-Kuah, 65, leiomyosarcoma patient and member of the Singapore Sarcoma Support Group

Mrs Wendy Tan-Kuah, who is undergoing chemotherapy for leiomyosarcoma, is grateful for the support and advice from members of the support group. (Credit: Mrs Wendy Tan-Kuah)

5. Support for Caregivers

Being diagnosed with cancer does not just affect the patient - it impacts their loved ones too.  Many struggle with stress, helplessness and caregiver burnout. Support groups can help them process their emotions, share advice and feel reassured that they are doing their best for their loved ones. 

“Joining a support group was a turning point in my caregiving journey. It connected me with a community who understood what I was going through and provided much-needed emotional support. The group’s positive impact on my wife’s cancer journey has since inspired me to become an active participant. If you’re feeling overwhelmed, don’t hesitate to reach out or join a support group - it makes all the difference,” advised Mr Philip Kuah, 69, caregiver and member of the Singapore Sarcoma Support Group.

Mr Philip Kuah with his wife, Mrs Wendy Tan-Kuah at an activity organised by the Singapore Sarcoma Support Group. (Credit: Mrs Wendy Tan-Kuah)

If you are a newly diagnosed patient, undergoing treatment, a cancer survivor or a caregiver, consider joining a support group. There are several support groups at NCCS to support patients and their families across Singapore.  If you are not sure which support group is suitable for you, contact NCCS’ Department of Psychosocial Oncology at patientsupport@nccs.com.sg or call 6306 1777.