| The Virgin Island
By Daniel Thien, Programme Executive
Dept of Psychosocial Oncology, NCC
Scenario
Seawater is seeping in as your boat is peddling close to the shore of an island. The boatman had asked you to walk along the shallow waters towards this virgin island while he tries to get help to mend his boat. Each pair of travellers began their exploration of the virgin island…
The scenario was used during a therapeutic group imagery exercise, known as ‘The Virgin Island’. The exercise shed light into the issues and concerns these participants had, their coping styles, as well as setting the direction in harnessing resilience, while coping with cancer.
Brighter Side of Life
One couple found that the island was covered with lush greenery. There were many trees that bore all kinds of fruits. Streams of clear water seeped through algae covered rocks, while birds were heard singing their joyful tunes.
Despite cancer, this couple maintained an optimistic view of life. Although not given a choice of whether or not to be saddled with problems and/or illness in life, they continued to count their blessings, and maintained the capacity to hope.
Braving the Challenges
Another couple had this to share – As far as their eyes could see, dense jungle and vegetation covered the land. Danger seemed to loom within the forest. Sunlight hardly permeated beneath the dense canopy of giant trees. They braved the darkness, and ventured into the jungle, only to fall into a deep, rocky pit.
The couple however, did not give up. They struggled hard to get back on their feet, making use of the jack knife within their backpacks to cut steps into the rocky walls. After climbing out of the pit, they marked the surroundings with broken twigs, serving to remind them not to come close to it again. Both of them continued their journey, holding firmly to each other’s hand. They had grown to cherish and depend more on one another. To an observer, it must have been an emotionally stirring sight – to feel the love that bonded their hearts.
During processing, the husband (patient) shared his anxieties about receiving treatment. To him, it was just like going into an unknown fearful terrain. However, several positives would help them in the journey – their love for one another, their courage and determination, and their willingness to learn and grow through the painful experiences. They also learnt to appreciate the little victories along the way.
So, what is your ‘Virgin Island’? How is it like? Often, we may not be able to choose the circumstances we are in. However, we can choose our response.
Cancer is a journey without map. You have to map your own journey.
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